Saturday, May 30, 2009

Participation in Natl Child-Centered Divorce Month in July

I've been working hard regarding plans for launching the 3rd annual National Child-Centered Divorce Month in July. I value your feedback, suggestions and media connections.

We want to send press releases, schedule telesemianrs and workshops, write articles, do interviews and create as much attention as possible in the next two months focusing on issues related to divorce and parenting.

What changes would we like to see in the legal system?

How can divorce professionals work together to make positive changes?

What can we ask divorced parents to do differently and better on behalf of their children?

How can we enlist the help of the media in spreading the word about issues that need to be addressed?

How can educators, therapists and the clergy team with us on behalf of divorced children?

Do you have other questions or ideas? Now's the time to start the dialogue!

I look forward to hearing from you all!

Let's not waste this opportunity to get our voices heard in every municipality throughout the US -- and beyond.

Many thanks,
Rosalind

Saturday, May 9, 2009

4 Divorce Don'ts When Telling Your Kids!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT

Preparing to break the news to your kids that you’re divorcing their other parent? Feeling insecure about how to broach the subject? Wondering how much to share? How your children will react? How to handle their questions? How to deal with your special circumstances? What the experts suggest?

Well you’re not alone.

Talking about divorce to your children is tough. You don’t want to make mistakes you will regret.

There are many common mistakes parents make at this time. Learn four of the most important ones so you can avoid them.

* Pressuring children to make choices. Most kids feel torn when asked to choose between their parents. Don’t put them in that position.

* Neglecting to tell your kids that they are not at fault. Don’t assume your children understand that they are victims in your divorce. Remind them frequently that they bare no blame in any way related to your divorce – even and especially if you are fighting with their other parent about them.

* Sharing information only adults should be aware of. Parents often do this to bond with their children or try to win them over. It creates a burden that children shouldn’t have to bare. Talk to adults about adult issues.

* Using your children as spies. Don’t ask and expect your kids to tell you secrets about their other parent’s life and home. It makes them feel uncomfortable and puts enormous pressure on them. They’ll resent you for it.

Fortunately you can reach out to many different professionals to help you if you’re not positive about how best to approach your children. Speak to a divorce mediator or see a therapist who specializes in this subject. Find an attorney who practices Collaborative Law which will result in more positive, cooperative outcomes. Seek the advice of parenting coaches, school counselors, clergy and other professionals. Don’t forget the many valuable books and articles on this topic.

Whatever you do, prepare yourself in advance when talking to your children. Be aware of the impact of your words on their innocent psyches. Avoid the mistakes we have discussed. Think before you leap and give your family a sound foundation on which to face the changes ahead with security, compassion and love.

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Rosalind Sedacca, Certified Corporate Trainer and relationship seminar
facilitator, is the author of the new ebook, How Do I Tell the Kids …
about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook™ Guide to Preparing Your
Children – with Love! To learn more about the ebook, visit http://www.howdoitellthekids.com. For free articles, free ezine and other
valuable resources for parents, visit: www.childcentereddivorce.com.

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Mother/Daughter Event for Teens Recommended

Hannah Montana Rules the Box Office

Can Moms Compete with Her Hollywood Influence on Their Daughters?


There are so many competing influences that affect young girls during their formative years. As the teen and tween years approach, it’s easy for moms to feel that their daughters are more likely to listen to their friends at school and Hollywood celebrities. Can mothers compete with the Hannah Montanas and iCarlys of the world?

Karen Nowicki knows that daughters want to hear from their moms more than anyone else. Nowicki is the founder of a unique mother-daughter sleepover event that renews the bond between mothers and their 9- to 13-year-old daughters. This transformative 2-day activity strengthens their relationship through the difficult tween and teen years. It provides an opportunity for mothers to build their daughters’ self confidence during the most influential time of their lives. The scheduled workshops and activities help create memories that mothers and daughters will cherish forever.

At her one-of-a-kind event, Nowicki teaches mothers and daughters:

Why daughters really do want to listen to their moms.
How mothers can have a stronger influence than the media.
That girls are perfect exactly as they are.
How to build a strong bond of mutual trust.
Why laughing together is so important to their relationship.

This event is Friday, May 22nd at 6 p.m. to Saturday, May 23rd at 4 p.m. at the beautiful Dobson Ranch Inn in Mesa, AZ. The event includes meals and a private hotel room for each mother-daughter pair. Early-bird registration is only $350.


CREDENTIALS: Karen Nowicki is a successful author, life coach, and the mother of two tweens. Her children’s book, Maddie Moonbeam’s Garden, is an inspirational tribute to each person’s journey toward learning to love themselves. She is a regular contributor to the Root & Sprout Magazine. Before opening her own coaching business, Nowicki was a teacher and assistant principal for the Kyrene School District. She was also the VP of Schools for Pinnacle Education, Inc. Karen’s media experience includes several radio interviews and an 8 min. segment on The Author’s Show.

CONTACT: Karen Nowicki, (480) 818-0206 (AZ); karennowicki@cox.net; www.motherdaughterweekend.com